2020见到太多针对女性的恐怖暴力事件，当女性开始发声，我们见到了更多渗透在各个角落里的对女性歧视。各行各业的女性工作者也在一起从社会各个维度诸如道德、法律、医疗、传媒、教育等总结出来patriarchy对女性的全方位无死角钳制和压迫。此纪录片里对历史学家的采访最让我印象深刻，她提到了原始母系社会的吉光片羽，还有母系社会为什么让权给patriarchy，而patriarchy又是如何残暴压制母系社会的复苏。看了《无父无夫的国度》摩梭族现存的母系社会状态，犹如一个灯塔一样的存在。我们看到了社会的a面，也应该多思考下b面。纪录片的主要观点汇总如下：

1.Dating game 1）Sex is more important for women.

2）Women have long list about expectation details, while only few man can match it.

3）Women are out-performing men in nearly every category.

4）Decreased expections of marriage, women depend on themselves.

2.pills

1）Pills decrease sex drive, because pills make body stop producing the hormonetestoterone (激素睾酮）

2）pills change the structure of brain，which affect women’s opinions about man. 3）About sex women value minds, while man value actions.in this society female doesn’t show their desire of sex , but keep it internal.

3.history

In “her story”, there were a lot of sexual freedom, and more peace and harmony. So the idea that man is primitive and aggressive in his essence is wrong. But that changed by an enormous climate crises around 3000 dc. Many ice ages dried up the earth， and made the world very cold so that people couldn’t live and work on the land anymore. Then men start to conquer land of other people to live on. Then they built a man-dominated society which were very suppressive for women. When people settled down in settlements and cities, the women also stayed very free and could choose their partners, so sexuality was really something bigger than a biological or medical thing. It was emotional and psychological and spiritual thing. The oldest profession in the world: prostitution in history, but in her story its midwifery The midwife help the pregnant women to delieve babies, using herbs to relax muscles. She had a lot of herbal knowledge and a lot about control birth. That’s why they had so much sexual freedom. Women in the past knew much more about anti-conception than women today. At the end of the Middle Ages in Europe, there became a serious illness, a plague, and the reputation was decimated. Many villages and lands were empty, the church and state thought ‘ we had to repopulatie’, and they thought, well, who manages fertility, who control fertility. That was midwife. And they thought ‘let’s remove them, let’s call them witches. The literal meaning of the word ‘witch’ means ’to know’.( I always thought the ‘witch’ is a negative word, but it’s actually about knowledge.) midwifes has the ancient knowledge about managing fertility, about reducing fertility, and enhancing fertility. So these wise women was accused of witchery. And a witch hunt started. So we had a high sex drive, but then the church took it away. Yes. We in our western cultures dad a long long and very tragic history of sex repression, repression of the libido, recession of body awareness. Sex was perverse. Sex was vulgar. And we have this split between sexuality and religion. Where is that freedom we had? 4.porn

playboy 50’ 女权运动 60’ playgirl 70’

5.fifty shades of grey

1)社会压抑了女性对性的表达，但是女性内心对性是有不低的欲望的。 2)读者心理需求：“In what way can I, as an average woman, have sex with an alpha male, and still remain my innocence.” “<> adresses the duality that almost every woman faces, I believe that deep inside every woman is a crazy sex drive waiting to unleashed. But at the same time , society teaches women to be well and properbehaved. But <> managed to unlock this secretly allowing a women’s sex drive to be unleashed, while still maintain some kind of sexual innocence.”

6.Philosophy

王尔德：除了性本身，所有一切都有关于性，而性是关于权力的。 Bernays discovered that woman were driven by deep, primitive, sexual and competitive urges. Man-drive society 男权社会 1）Penis envy

2）Polygamous（ 一夫多妻制）， law of the vital few

3）Sex in its ultimate form is the transfer of power “Men need power in order to gain access to sex, but once they are having it, they lose power . But woman’s power increase.” 4)“Female’s orgasm can be 10 times more powerful than the man’ orgasm. The female clitoris contain 15,000 nerve endings （神经末梢), while the head of the penis only has 4,000 nerve endings. Can you imagine what it’s like when these 15,000 sexual nerve endings fire all at once? Well, it creates forces —a force so strong that it almost shuts down a woman’s brain. And at that point, all memory, emotions, and reasoning function stop.

5)And this event is so powerful that some may even call it spiritual (形而上性) . Most people only know about two dimensions when they talk about sexual activities, the physical and emotional. But some women can reach a third dimension when they climax: the spiritual. They describe it as a place where they can finally let go of all the physical and emotional baggages.” ——so, you don’t actually leave your body, but you have the feel that you have left everything behind? ——yes, exactly.